12 questions to talk through before you marry

Premarital questions for Christian couples

Premarital questions for Christian couples work well when each of you thinks about the answer before hearing the other. These twelve come from Amaré, the app that sends engaged couples one question and one Bible verse a day. Use them on a date or between sessions of a premarital course. They do not replace counseling with your pastor.

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Money and home

What nobody brings up now often causes friction later:

• How do we want to handle money as one household?
• What money topic should we talk through before the wedding so we do not fight about it later?
• What household task do you assume I will do without us ever talking about it?
• How would you like us to decide on big expenses once we share everything?

Families and the past

Marriage joins two families, each with its own habits:

• What worries you about joining our two families?
• What changes for you in your relationship with your parents once we are married?
• Which custom of my family is hard for you to understand or accept?
• What part of your past would you like us to talk about before we get married?

Faith and the first year

And for the home you want to build together:

• What habit of faith do we want in our home from day one?
• Which part of the vows would you like to understand better before saying them before God?
• What rule for arguing well would you like us to agree on before we get married?
• If the first year gets hard, what will we do before we drift apart?

Can two walk together without agreeing where to go? Amos 3:3

Answering them in the app

In Amaré you choose the engaged stage, and each day brings one question like these with a verse. Each of you answers on your own phone, the answers open once you have both replied, and then you pray for each other.

Questions people ask

What should Christian couples talk about before marriage?

Money, families, how you argue and how faith will shape your home.

Can we use these with premarital counseling?

Yes, as conversations between sessions with a pastor or a mentor couple.

Is it for Catholic or Protestant couples?

Both. In the app, the faith questions come in Catholic and Protestant versions.

To read together: questions for couples, prayers for couples and Bible verses for couples.

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Bible text from the Berean Standard Bible, public domain.